Has an Abortion Taken the Color out of Your World?
Abortion, without a doubt, can be one of the most traumatic experiences in a person’s life. The loss of pregnancy through abortion may be far in your past, but the memories remain. You, the father, or other family members may feel like emotions are crashing down on you. You may feel as if your head is stuck in the sand. Please know that you are NOT an island, and are NOT alone! In many cases, the pain of loss may initially be buried, and may surface in relationship difficulties, depression or physical, psychological or spiritual problems.
Lighthouse Pregnancy Resource Center is here to reach out to men, women, siblings, grandparents or anyone else that might be hurting psychologically, physically or spiritually due to an abortion. We acknowledge that this pain may not be recognized by other family members, friends or by society.
But, we KNOW your emotions exist, and we’re here to help.
Symptoms of Post Abortion Stress Trauma
If you’ve experienced an abortion, your life may have changed in the following ways. We can help.
- abusive behavior
- alcohol and / or drug use
- avoids baby reminders (like baby showers, baby stores, etc.)
- changes in relationship / marriage (many relationships break up after an abortion)
- control issues
- crying spells
- difficulty in all types of intimacy
- divides time into “before” and “after” the abortion
- eating disorders
- fails to bond with subsequent children
- loss of interest in sex
- loss of normal sources of pleasure
- marital stress
- need of financial success
- over-protective of living children
- promiscuity or frigidity
- reduced motivation
- secretive
- self-punishing and / or self-degrading behavior
- sleep disturbances
- strained relationship with living children
- suicidal impulses
- tolerates abusive relationships
- wants atonement / replacement child
- withdrawn
Men and Abortion
The guilt and burden of a man who’s pressured a woman into abortion, is unbearable at times. They feel guilty for their sexual irresponsibility and feel unforgivable for pushing the woman to take the life of their child. Even if abortion was in a previous relationship, it can be divisive to later marriages.
Other men, siblings, grandparents, friends, etc.; are left to handle the “aftermath” of an abortion when they would have rather the mother chosen “life.” Maybe they tried to talk the mother out of the abortion, or found out afterward that she had made the choice without their knowledge. These people are touched by the abortion experience as well. They deserve to grieve the loss of that child, as much as the woman who laid on the table.
Contact Us
Lighthouse Pregnancy Resource Center
help@lighthouseprc.org
phone: 973.238.9045
Located in Hawthorne, Hackensack, Paterson & Wayne